So here I am, in the middle of this intense self-discovery and renewal and life changing diet right? Striving to remake my body and my mind and lifestyke right along with it - all the stuff I've been blathering on about these past five (six?) weeks. Right?
No. Not so much. No dieting for me thanks.
I made cupcakes today. I ate 2 1/2 cupcakes today, and it took every ounce of restraint I have to stop there.
Seriously, what is my problem? I'm not trying and failing, I'm not finding it hard to stick to my diet; I'M DOING NOTHING. And this complete failure to find the motivation to even try is crushing. It is disapointment and disgust in myself at it's keenest, and it makes me want to quit. To just accept being a lumpy tub and get on with being a mom, back fat to the mirror.
It makes me want to eat the rest of those cupcakes.
I'm not sure how to get out of this mindtrap. Wanting to look better hasn't worked. Wanting to feel better hasn't worked. I reward myself with food, and I soothe myself with food when I fail.
Maybe it's time I start punishing myself by witholding food. I haven't earned it, I don't deserve it, I certailny don't need it to survive (I mean I don't need the treats, obviously I need some food).
I just don't know. I can't get my mind aorund it and I haven't found the right approach. the only other time I've lost weight was right after I had a baby, and the lightness and momentum you get hen you have just lost 20 lbs in a week made it so easy to keep it going. I don't have that now (and husband is NOT falling for my argument that I need to get pregnant and have another baby so I can lose some weight), and I'm finding it impossible to start without that initial boost.
I'm finlly understanding just how negligent I've been towards my health and eating habits for the past 10 years - and I'm finally paying the price. I need to do some real introspection (gag) and figure out how I'm going to change my thinking and correct my course.
I should also probably stop baking cupcakes.
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Don't beat yourself up, Kate. 2-1/2 cupcakes is NOTHING (I would have eaten half the batch or more, and I am SO not exaggerating one bit). I mean, you're only setting yourself up for failure if you deprive yourself completely!
ReplyDeleteI used to work for an upscale diet clinic (have I already told you this?). The woman who owned it charged a ridiculous ONE HUNDRED DOLLARS PER POUND to tell people what to eat. But people flocked to her because they would lose up to 20 pounds a month - as did I, when I first started there. The secret? Stay under 50-60 grams of carbs a day, and get that from fruit and veggies. Limiting your carbs, and cutting out sugar completely, works wonders. Eat lean meat, eggs, cheese for protein, and watch your portion sizes. That's it, in a nutshell.
Oh yeah, and don't bake cupcakes. :)